"I have been in a roller coaster marriage for almost ten years. After telling my husband to call a lawyer because I was done, in a last ditch effort, my husband convinced me to watch these videos. It has our our personalities and relationship nailed down to the T. These videos have given me hope that we can break our cycle and keep our family together. Thank you for helping us!"
-Sandra Thacher, 42
Whether you are in a relationship now and looking for new tools to light the spark again, or you’re feeling shell-shocked from past heartbreaks and looking for a roadmap to greener pastures, or you’ve been doing a lot of personal development and are seeking to add new tools to your toolbox, you are in the right place. This course includes seven dates to decode emotionally honest communication, get your needs met, and establish a soul connection with a lover, using The MacWilliam Method™.
I have done a lot of research during my own quest for answers in life love and happiness, and I haven't found any other information like Briana's. She is super informative and does an amazing job of incorporating it all, without being too clinical or intimidating! Her delivery is that of (a very well educated) friend! In watching her videos I feel as if she knows me personally, and isn't judging me! I am so so thankful to have found Briana! I know that you will learn so much from her course! God Bless!
-Katie Buchannan, 28
LET ME GUESS: YOU WANT A HEALTHY, SECURE RELATIONSHIP...
You'd like to have an emotionally available partner, who passionately loves and respects you. Bonus points if your partner is a good listener, unthreatened by your needs (for closeness OR space), and knows how to express themselves honestly and openly in return!
BUT THERE'S A PROBLEM...
To experience emotional availability in your relationship, you need to understand how to communicate your own needs from an emotionally authentic place, without triggering your partners emotional defenses.
And typically, that means understanding both of your unique "love maps"-your way of giving and receiving love.
In this course, your love maps are defined as your "attachment style." And your attachment style plays a significant role in your expectations of a relationship, and how you communicate your needs. And insecure attachment styles usually express themselves on a spectrum of anxiety, or avoidance.
HOW ATTACHMENT STYLES AFFECT RELATIONSHIPS...
If you are an anxious Open Heart...
You might find yourself doing all the planning and compromising. Maybe you feel like you're initiating everything, including affection, touching, and even sex. But nothing you do garners a satisfying response. After a while, it starts to feel like everything's on your partner’s terms, and that doesn’t feel very good. You can never do enough, and whatever you do goes unacknowledged. This leaves you feeling frustrated, angry, and a little crazy.
You might feel really rattled when a partner says things like...
- "I am sorry you feel that way."
- "I don't know what you're so upset about, it's not that big of a deal."
- "I need some time alone to think about it."
- "I don't know why, the chemistry just must be off."
If you are an avoidant Rolling Stone...
Maybe you have a partner that seems to have endless needs and is never satisfied, no matter what you do. They give a lot, but it feels as if they are trying to obligate you to do as they say. And whenever you push back on that, they turn on the waterworks to make you feel guilty for having your own mind and wanting a bit of space. They don’t appreciate the things you do contribute, and so your efforts are always unacknowledged. It’s like you’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. Overtime, you decide it's better not to engage at all.
You might get annoyed with phrases like...
- "I know you better than you know yourself."
- "You wouldn't say/need/do that, if you really loved me."
- "Nothing’s wrong, I'm fine."
- "If I have to ask, then it doesn't count."
- "Keeping [insert anything] private means you're lying/manipulating/cheating on me, and/or don't care about my feelings."
WHEN TRUST AND INTIMACY ERODE...
In either case, you feel undervalued and under-appreciated. Trust erodes. You start wondering how the love you shared could wane so painfully?
But you're not a therapist, and you are probably sick of playing that role in your relationships anyway.
You don't know how to express yourself without triggering your partner into throwing up their emotional walls and "needing to take some space," or slipping into becoming hyper-controlling, criticizing, and resorting to ultimatums.
As a result, you fall into a painful, push-pull pattern in relationships that leaves you with emotional whiplash.
UNTIL NOW, THAT ONLY LEFT YOU WITH CERTAIN OPTIONS:
1. Read every self-help book under the sun, and spend hours (if not years) talking around in circles in counseling or therapy, spending beaucoup bucks and wondering how you'll know when its working...
2. Manage to accomplish a lot of insight, but still attracting the same kind of partners, and/or conflicts, over and over again, failing to see a real change in your FELT experiences...
3. Accept that this is as good as things are going to get, or...
4. Try something radically different, and think outside the box.
If you're leaning towards #4, my self-directed online course, Relationship Rescue: A Toolkit for Healthy Communication in Unstable Relationships, is just the ticket for you!
I am embarrassed to say that I have had a habit of criticizing and guilting my partner, in the hopes that it would motivate him to "do better," because that's how I respond to criticism. In learning about my husband's attachment style, I now understand that is always going to have the opposite affect for him, and eventually push him away, or cause him to tune out. I have also realized that when I do that, I'm not really being emotionally honest with him, or myself. Its a long road, but now I feel like I have the tools to smooth it out. Thank you, Briana!
-Amanda McDowell, 37
IN THIS COURSE, YOU WILL LEARN...
DATE 1: A 5-step focus wheel to keep your head in the game and committed to completing the course, and all 7 dates!
DATE 2: How to decode your conflict blueprint with bonus expert presenter and intentionally intimate relationship coach, Kyle Benson, a researcher and trained couple conversation coder at The Gottman Institute's Love Lab.
DATE 3: The difference between deep and surface structure communications, plus 6 easy steps to bridge the emotional gap with your lover, by practicing mindful communication and body activation.
DATE 4: 4 Steps to safely practicing vulnerability, and an art experiential to help you learn to attune to your partner, while creating emotional safety in the relationship.
DATE 5: How to inspire your partner to care about your needs in 5 easy steps, plus an experiential activity to design your relationship lovemap.
DATE 6: How to decode 4 essential boundaries in relationships, plus a fun exercise to explore and navigate the space between you and your partner.
DATE 7: How to spice up your sex life and keep the embers burning with a guest presentation on Erotic Blueprints™, by certified coach, Sacha Fossa.
THIS COURSE INCLUDES...
60-Page downloadable workbook+ activities and assignments
12 Video Lectures and Demos
7 Tutorials of Experiential Exercises
2 Guest Expert Presentations
Access to support, discussion and Q&A in the private Facebook group
PLUS TWO BONUS EXPERT PRESENTATIONS!
Love and Intimacy Coach
Love and intimacy coach, Kyle Benson, will rock your world with a presentation on how to effectively manage conflict in relationships.
Kyle has dedicated his career to helping couples build “intentionally intimate relationships,” and is a researcher and conversation coder, at the Love Lab in Seattle, Washington, at The Gottman Institute.
His work has been featured in dozens of major media channels including Business Insider, U.S. News, The Chicago Tribune, Huffington Post, and more.
Kyle's presentation shares insights from research on 3,000 plus couples in what makes long term relationships work, and how to mitigate the effects of the "four horsemen" in relationships: criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.
This is a bonus presentation you won't want to miss!
Sexual Wellness and Empowerment Coach
Join Sacha Fossa to discuss the five Erotic Blueprints™, and how we relate to our partners in the bedroom. Sacha Fossa is a sexual wellness and empowerment coach, educator, and holistic healing arts practitioner. She has an MA in Health, Arts & Sciences, is an Advanced Certified Tantric Educator and a certified Erotic Blueprint Coach™. She also has over 20 certifications in other Healing Arts Modalities. Her passion is to help you create your best sex and love life, partnered or not.
FOR FOLKS THAT HAVE TAKEN THIS COURSE, THE BENEFITS HAVE BEEN PHENOMENAL...
Participants reported increased clarity around their own needs and desires, and that their partners were much more receptive to how they expressed them.
Participants reported conversations that would have normally triggered an endless battle, or lead to the silent treatment, sparked a heart-warming connection instead.
Participants felt as though they'd gained clarity around what makes each partner tick, and experience an increase sense of respect, admiration, and personal agency in the relationship.
Participants also experienced increased clarity around what they felt was their "intuition" versus a "triggered" emotional response, which helped them make better discerning decisions about compatible vs incompatible partners.
Experience has taught me that its not complicated to learn how to emotionally connect in an authentic way, when you have a deep understanding of your attachment style. But, it can be difficult without the right tools, and if you have no pre-existing models for how to function in a secure manner.
That's why I created this online course, Relationship Rescue: A Toolkit for Healthy Communication in Unstable Relationships!
Because it works.
I will admit, I was hesitant to do this when my girlfriend asked me to try some of the exercises. It seemed a little too girly and I am not an artist. But I figured I would give it a shot, and was surprised by how much I enjoyed it. Being able to do something together, rather than just sit in a room and stare at each other, talking about all the ways things were going wrong, was a nice change of pace. And I remembered how I used to make things as a kid, and somehow that just got lost. I would recommend at least giving it a try.
-David Peterson, 36
AND THERE IS NO RISK INVOLVED WITH A 14-DAY MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE!
I'm so confident you're going to love Anxious Attachment 101 that I'm offering a 100% money-back guarantee.
If you use this course—and don't completely love it—I will refund every penny of your purchase, no questions asked, within 14-days of your purchase.
Just shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
WHAT MAKES THIS COURSE DIFFERENT...
Relationship Rescue is a toolkit to help you stabilize the communication in your partnerships, using The MacWilliam Method™.
With The MacWilliam Method™, you will come to experience self sovereignty as evolving out of a continuous loop between conscious awareness and creative expression.
"Self-sovereignty" is a term used to describe an optimal experience of personal agency, esteem, confidence, and security, so you can approach your relationships from a position of compassion, acceptance, enjoyment, and personal empowerment.
In order to achieve this, a program must accomplish two things effectively:
- 1) Take into account the couple's attachment styles and how that colors their emotional lenses, and...
- 2) Work with affective, emotional experiences in the present moment (not just go on a treasure hunt into the past for insight, alone).
Relationship Rescue does more than just teach you how to argue skillfully (which research shows can actually make things worse), or only think differently (which leaves you with a lot of insight, but not a lot of change in how you feel in the relationship).
When we are in love, it's a very physical and emotional experience--not a mental one!
When we focus too much on talking, we get lost in our heads and add even more momentum to the content of the problem. Then we forget about our bodies and the way our felt experiences like to communicate--which is through creative expression. All that mental clutter starts sucking the “spark” of attraction and compassion right out of you, your partner, and the relationship. (Most people experience this as a loss of sexual chemistry or a lack of emotional safety).
To solve this issue, this course shows you how to connect on an emotional level with your partner, and rediscover the joyfulness that you once felt in each other’s presence, so you can access your emotions creatively, non-defensively, and even non-verbally!
Equally, if you are single, in each lesson, there is a modification for partnered individuals, as well as single individuals.
HOW THE MACWILLIAM METHOD™ WORKS...
Step 1: Cognitive Reframing
Through cognitive reframing,you learn to rewrite painful narratives into positive statements of belief, so you learn how to honor your values while creating an openness to receiving the love you want.
Step 2: Body Activation
With mindfulness and body-activating exercises, we gently titrate all that anxious energy stored up in your body to build new neural networks in a healthier framework.
Step 3: Arts-Based Experientials
Through creative expression we externalize the inner world, and achieve self sovereignty by being in dialogue with the Essential Self. This is where the head and the heart get to have a conversation about putting insight into action, so that you not only think about things differently, but also feel differently.
Hi, my name is Briana, and I like burritos. Actually, burritos + a good movie = heaven, in my book. I also love romance novels and campy science fiction shows (anyone else a die-hard Supernatural fan?). I also love being my own boss. Doing what I want to do, when I want to do it. And treating work like play.
My passion for working with attachment wounds and personal development stems from a rocky childhood. As a child of divorce, I bounced back and forth between my parents, across state lines.We lived below the poverty line for much of my young life. In my parents, I had an example of hard work but constant struggle.
I became a high achiever to compensate. It served me well professionally, until my struggles with relationships in adulthood tore down everything I had accomplished.
In adulthood, I experienced roller coaster relationships, and ultimately wound up a divorced, single mom. Then, after losing my job due to budget cuts, within a six-month time frame, one after another, both my parents and my brother were diagnosed with serious, chronic illnesses. And the new partner I had fallen madly in love with– the one all the raw parts of myself wanted so desperately to please and keep – couldn’t prioritize me. When he left, my heart broke anew, and I miscarried, without realizing I had been pregnant. I felt my soul was split wide open.
As I came face-to-face with my greatest fears, I knew I had to find the grace on the other side, or collapse into a victimized identity. I decided to dive straight down into my demons, and wrote a book about attachment and grief. Ultimately, I found several other contributors willing to share their stories of grief, and we got it published!
Writing the book emboldened me to shed my shame, and talk about these things in a way I had never thought I would feel safe doing. This led to creating the curriculum for my online courses in personal development, and building an online community for support. Much to my delight, both caught fire, and I have never looked back!
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Will this actually help me fix my problem?
The problem with trying to establish a loving connection with a partner through the lens of “problem solving” is that you only wind up adding more energy, focus and momentum to what you believe is “wrong” about your relationship. Research from the Gottman Institute has shown that when we focus on the content of “the problem” we actually wind up feeling increasingly frustrated, insecure, condescended to, and alienated in our relationships.
Instead, this course emphasizes fun, playfulness, creativity, and non-verbal communication as a place to start establishing (or re-establishing) a loving and secure foundation with your partner, before tackling the painful issues. Once you are on more secure footing, and very clear about why you want to remain with this partner, then we dive into the harder conversations, and decode the triggering verbal statements that send us on an emotional roller coaster, in love.
What if I am single?
If you are single, this course will give you a blueprint for how to decode what might have given you trouble in previous relationships, and provide you with the tools to approach any new relationship from an authentic and heart-centered place.
If possible, I still recommend recruiting a friend or family member to do the activities with you. There is a wealth of information that you can glean from your platonic relationships, and they are often the safest places to practice new communication skills!
What if I just started dating someone?
If you have just started dating someone new, a few of these activities and prompts might be fun to introduce to your partner (most likely the first two or three). However, I would recommend watching the content first and screening which ones you think would be most appropriate, and trusting your gut on when to introduce them, depending on the evolving level of commitment between you.
Generally speaking, all of the activities and directives are intended to be fun and playful, but the content becomes increasingly intimate, the more dates you have.
What tools and techniques are included?
This course implements The MacWilliam Method, in its approach. With The MacWilliam Method, you will come to experience self-sovereignty in relationships as evolving out of a continuous loop between conscious awareness and creative expression. The MacWilliam Method uniquely applies three practical tools to maintain its momentum: 1) Cognitive Reframing, 2) Body Activation, and 3) Arts-Based Experientials. Each of these tools is applied in the lessons available in this course.
Does this course provide scripts?
While this course does identify specific phrases and sample scenarios to decode for the purposes of understanding how our conflict blueprints might affect us, instead of offering clumsy scripts for you to memorize as a solution, this course will teach you how to access the “right” things to say in a tough situation, from a place of your own authentic inner wisdom and knowing. It also introduces fun and creative ways to approach non-verbal communication with a partner, which makes up the larger portion of how we actually communicate in love!
How long will I have access to the materials?
How does a lifetime sound? Once you purchase the course, the materials are yours for all time, including any updates that may be added in the future.
I'm busy, how long does it take?
This course was created to be completed within 7 lessons or “dates.” The length of each date will depend on the level of involvement and engagement of each participant. I recommend exploring one date per week. The lessons are also locked to enforce lecture order. Once you complete a lesson module, you will want to select “complete and continue” to unlock the next lecture and/or tutorial.
How do I know if this is for me?
If you are looking for a quick fix, or for a reason to label your partner as the offending party, in order to prove yourself right, this course is not for you. If you are looking for tools to manipulate a partner into doing what you want them to do, this course is not for you either.
The purpose of this course is to help you step into your relationships more authentically with joy, personal responsibility, and compassion towards yourself, as well as your partner.
And so, if you are…
- Open to fun, playful and creative approaches that foster a heart-soul connection, this course is for you.
- Open to inviting a little silliness and humor into your relationship, this course is for you.
- Needing and wanting assistance in saying the things you really mean, versus the things that impulsively spill out of your mouth, this is the course for you.
- Wanting to foster a deepening sense of intimacy and trust in your partner, this is the course for you.
- Interested in step-by-step guidance on how to move beyond fearful defensive posturing in a conflict, and open your heart, without needing to run away, or anxiously over-control the situation, this course is for you!
What if I have technical questions, or want a refund?
Please contact us at Support@CreativeArtsTherapiesOnline.com, within 14 days of purchase, and we will issue a refund.
IF YOU'RE STILL ON THE FENCE, CONSIDER...
If you had to pay $200 per hour, once per week, for a talk therapist, you could expect to spend $2,400 in three months worth of treatment.
For a fraction of what you would spend in time and money on counseling or therapy, this course delivers tangible results, in only 7 dates worth of fun and easy experiential instruction.
- Being able to voice your needs without fear of your partner running away, and actually expecting that it will bring you closer.
- Being able to determine what is your real “intuition:” versus a “triggered” emotional response, which helps you to feel empowered while honoring your emotional boundaries in love.
- Waiting only minutes, rather than hours, for a return text or phone call.
- Not worrying about a wandering eye, because you know you have their rapt attention: (I'm talking the type of relentless devotion that you only see in romance novels and Hollywood movies).
- Plus, Experiencing sex and emotional intimacy as a unified, sensual and spiritual experience.
- Visioning exciting plans for the future with you as a focal point of the picture, and seeing your partner immediately take action on making that happen as soon as possible.
- Traveling and vacationing together to the places you’ve always wanted to go.
- Spending quality time with each other's friends and family, without getting friend zoned or losing that “special spark”.
- Making time for shared, creative activities that inspire laughter, playfulness, and passion in the relationship.
THE DECISION IS YOURS...
You don't have to be perfect before attracting, recovering or revitalizing passionate love. You don't have to have it all figured out, right now. It's okay to be human. It's okay to be in process. But reigniting the flames of passion in your love life starts once you decide and commit to loving in the ways you've always desired, and refusing to accept anything other than a next-level life and relationship.
You cannot make radical changes, or attract love and abundance into your life, alone. And you certainly can't do it with the same behavioral patterns and mindset you've always had.
Transformation is rarely linear, sometimes progress feels like fear, and trust is a verb. If you see the potential there, why not give it a shot?
It’s not hopeless.
It is worth it.
And if a little voice inside just cried, “Yaaaaasss!” while fist-pumping the air, you are in the right place.
It's time to take the first step towards changing the trajectory of your relationship(s).
So, let’s get started!
And there is no risk involved with a 14-day money-back guarantee!
My biggest struggle has been discerning my own intuition from a knee-jerk response to triggering statements and behaviors from emotionally unavailable partners. I found myself questioning if my feelings were even real, or if I was going crazy. The guided meditations and arts-based activities really got me back into my body and grounded me in a way that nothing else has, not even years of therapy and self help. Now, I feel a lot more in touch with my intuition and can tell when my gut is giving me an "it's okay" signal, or a "run as fast as you can" signal! I highly recommend this course.
-Michelle Giuseppe, 31
Lingering questions? Email us at Support@CreativeArtsTherapiesOnline.com, and we will get you squared!