This course is for securely attached "Cornerstones" who feel confused by insecure partners that send mixed signals and seem to be triggered by emotional honesty. In 5 easy lessons, you'll go from confused to clear, while learning how to amplify your strengths and help stabilize your relationship without having to spend a ton of money on experts and gurus, or spend years in therapy with no tangible result.
"Right from the first lesson, so many things clicked for me with what was going on in my relationship. Not only is the information well written and researched, but the experiential activities really drive it home. I found insight, yes, but I also managed to have some fun while I was doing it, and I wasn't expecting that."
— Maggie Lynch, 32
LET ME GUESS: YOU WANT A HEALTHY, SECURE RELATIONSHIP...
You'd like to have an emotionally available partner, who passionately loves and respects you. Bonus points if your partner is a good listener, unthreatened by your needs, and knows how to express themselves honestly and openly in return!
BUT THERE'S A PROBLEM...
To experience emotional availability in your relationship, you need to understand how to communicate your own needs from an emotionally authentic place, without triggering your partners emotional defenses.
And typically, that means understanding both of your unique "love maps"-your way of giving and receiving love.
If you are a secure "Cornerstone" that means understanding how the survival brain is triggering your partner, how to recognize and honor your own emotional boundaries in love, and how to apply what strengths you have, in a way that serves you, rather than depletes you and gives your power away.
But you're not a therapist, and you don't want to play that role in your relationships anyway.
You don't know how to express yourself without triggering your partner into throwing up their emotional walls and "needing to take some space," give you the silent treatment, or explode and accuse you of trying to "make it all about you."
Or perhaps no matter what you do, they just can't seem to trust you and it's starting to wear on your esteem and enjoyment in the relationship.
As a result, you fall into a painful, push-pull pattern in relationships that leaves you with emotional whiplash.
YOU MIGHT STRUGGLE WITH...
- May feel unjustly accused and punished, if an insecure partner expresses distrust or discomfort for seemingly no reason.
- May struggle to understand the sensitivities and defensive coping skills of an insecure partner, and thus unwittingly trigger them without realizing how or why.
- May not have been taught how to decode the mixed signals of insecure partners, and are left feeling like they must have done something wrong, so they assume the responsibility and blame unnecessarily.
- May have a naive or rosy perspective of their partner and the world--wanting to see only the best in everyone. But then they fail to sufficiently reinforce and maintain their boundaries, which leads to feeling depleted but not understanding why.
- May take certain things their partner says and does too personally, not realizing their partner is caught in an attachment trauma response, and it doesn’t have anything to do with them.
UNTIL NOW, THAT ONLY LEFT YOU WITH CERTAIN OPTIONS:
1. Read every self-help book under the sun, and spend hours (if not years) talking around in circles in counseling or therapy, spending beaucoup bucks and wondering how you'll know when its working...
2. Manage to accomplish a lot of insight, but still attracting the same kind of partners over and over again, failing to see a real change in your FELT experiences...
3. Accept that this is as good as things are going to get, or...
4. Try something radically different, and think outside the box.
If you're leaning towards #4, my self-directed online course, Secure Attachment 101: Amplify Your Strengths and Stabilize Your Relationship in 5 Easy Lessons, is just the ticket for you!
— Mariana Balderas, 28
IN THIS COURSE, YOU WILL LEARN...
Day 1: Cornerstone Attachment & The Survival Brain.
You will learn the definition of secure attachment (what I call “Cornerstone” attachment), and how an insecure partner’s neurophysiology might compel them towards distrusting you, and/or sabotaging the relationship, for seemingly no reason, including an activity which introduces you to Polyvagal Theory and its impact on triggering experiences in love.
Day 2: A Focus Wheel to Reframe Negative Thoughts.
You will learn about the limiting beliefs insecure partners may bring to the relationship, and how to use a focus wheel to regain your center and stay grounded in your own felt security, fostering an optimistic mindset.
Day 3: Relationship Compatibility and Values Assessment.
You will learn how your values and beliefs impact relationship compatibility and complete an assessment that will help you determine if your relationship problems are only due to communication issues, or deep-seated insecure attachment styles.
Day 4: 4 Essential Emotional Boundaries.
You will learn about 4 essential emotional boundaries and how they might manifest in your relationships, so you can spot and stop an insecure communication spiral before it happens.
Day 5: Open the Heart Chakra.
You will write 7 affirming, loving commitments to bolster your strengths as a secure partner while maintaining a positive mindset, and experience a guided meditation and experiential exercise to open your heart chakra to soul-deep connection.
THIS COURSE INCLUDES...
By the end of this course you will have completed 14 downloadable audio lectures, and 10 experiential video tutorials and activities including both guided meditations and arts-based activities. You will also have a 80+ page downloadable PDF workbook including the activity directives and lecture transcripts, as well as access to the private, paid Facebook group, where you can ask questions and post your assignments for direct feedback from me. I will be showing up to answer questions on a monthly live Q&A call, in the group.
“I bought this course because I have been dating someone that is emotionally unavailable one minute, and then very kind and sweet the next. With this course, I finally realized I could stop beating myself up, because there were biological factors involved, and it wasn't all my fault for not reading the signals correctly. I especially found the emotional boundaries lesson helpful, and the focus wheel exercise. I highly recommend this course.”
FOR FOLKS THAT HAVE TAKEN THIS COURSE, THE BENEFITS HAVE BEEN PHENOMENAL...
Students reported increased clarity around their own needs and desires, and that their partners were much more receptive to how they expressed them.
Students reported conversations that would have normally triggered an endless battle, or lead to the silent treatment, sparked a heart-warming connection instead.
Students felt as though they'd gained clarity around what makes each partner tick, and experience an increase sense of respect, admiration, and personal agency in the relationship.
Students also experienced increased clarity around what they felt was their "intuition" versus a "triggered" emotional response, which helped them make better discerning decisions about compatible vs incompatible partners.
Experience has taught me that its not complicated to learn how to emotionally connect in an authentic way, when you have a deep understanding of your attachment style. But, it can be difficult without the right tools, and if you have no pre-existing models for how to function in a secure manner.
That's why I created this self-directed, online course, Secure Attachment 101: Amplify Your Strengths and Stabilize Your Relationship in 5 Easy Lessons...
Because it works.
"While I really enjoyed the discussion of attachment styles and the psychological approach to the subject, I especially liked the spiritual framework that Briana brings to this work. The guided meditations and arts-based activities were really my favorite part, and moved me in ways the lectures alone may not have. My favorite activity was the last one on opening the heart chakra; I really felt something shift for me. If you're considering it, I would definitely tell you to take the course."
— Saanvi Khatri, 37
AND THERE IS NO RISK INVOLVED WITH A 14-DAY MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE!
I'm so confident you're going to love Secure Attachment 101: Amplify Your Strengths and Stabilize Your Relationship in 5 Easy Lessons that I'm offering a 100% money-back guarantee.
If you use this course—and don't completely love it—I will refund every penny of your purchase, no questions asked, within 14-days of your purchase.
Just shoot me an email at email@example.com.
Hi, my name is Briana, and I like burritos. Actually, burritos + a good movie = heaven, in my book. I also love romance novels and campy science fiction shows (anyone else a die-hard Supernatural fan?). I also love being my own boss. Doing what I want to do, when I want to do it. And treating work like play.
My passion for working with attachment wounds and personal development stems from a rocky childhood. As a child of divorce, I bounced back and forth between my parents, across state lines.We lived below the poverty line for much of my young life. In my parents, I had an example of hard work but constant struggle.
I became a high achiever to compensate. It served me well professionally, until my struggles with relationships in adulthood tore down everything I had accomplished.
In adulthood, I experienced roller coaster relationships, and ultimately wound up a divorced, single mom. Then, after losing my job due to budget cuts, within a six-month time frame, one after another, both my parents and my brother were diagnosed with serious, chronic illnesses. And the new partner I had fallen madly in love with– the one all the raw parts of myself wanted so desperately to please and keep – couldn’t prioritize me. When he left, my heart broke anew, and I miscarried, without realizing I had been pregnant. I felt my soul was split wide open.
As I came face-to-face with my greatest fears, I knew I had to find the grace on the other side, or collapse into a victimized identity. I decided to dive straight down into my demons, and wrote a book about attachment and grief. Ultimately, I found several other contributors willing to share their stories of grief, and we got it published!
Writing the book emboldened me to shed my shame, and talk about these things in a way I had never thought I would feel safe doing. This led to creating the curriculum for my online courses in personal development, and building an online community for support. Much to my delight, both caught fire, and I have never looked back!
"I have read a lot of self-help books and taken some online courses, and most of them talk about secure folks like they are superhuman, but the reality is everyone struggles sometimes, in love. Briana has a great way of explaining the dimensional nature of attachment and gently encourages you to use your strengths to stay grounded in a secure position, while respecting the fragile sensitivities we all have from time to time. She really humanized and normalized my experience without harsh labels or criticism. I highly recommend this course."
-Ariana Sutton, 31
IF YOU'RE STILL ON THE FENCE, CONSIDER...
If you had to pay $200 per hour, 1x per week for a talk therapist, you could expect to spend $2,400 in three months worth of treatment.
For a fraction of what you would spend on 1 hr in counseling or therapy (of which you'd spend most of the time going over the intake forms), this course delivers tangible results, in only 5 lessons worth of fun and easy experiential instruction.
IF YOU ARE DOUBTING THE POSSIBILITIES FOR LOVE...
All the things and the feels are possible for you.
More than that, its even probable, once you you decide and commit to living nothing less than a next-level life, and committing to the processes that will set you on that path.
The good news is, the tools you might need are relatively simple.
And the MOST crucial information that you will need on this journey, already exists INSIDE YOU.
However, learning how to access those parts of yourself can sometimes be a difficult task, when you've been taught your whole life to do the exact opposite.
But that's just conditioning.
And it can be undone.
Just as the brain is blessed with plasticity.
And it can be rewired.
Negative energy and defensive patterning that keep you stuck in a confusion cycle around her personal boundaries CAN be transformed and healed, so that you can RELAX into the brightest luminescence that is your spirit.
It is a process which will allow you to step into a state of being on FIYAH about life, and share that brilliance with a stars-in-their-eyes lover.
If taking a chance on pivoting in that direction isn't worth the cost of this course, I don't know what is!
THE DECISION IS YOURS...
You can continue to do the same thing you've been doing—feeling bulldozed in your relationship, while at the same time walking on eggshells and never feeling like you're needs are being met, increasingly anxious and depressed because of it...
Or you can take a step in the direction of improving your love life, by signing up for Secure Attachment 101: Amplify Your Strengths and Stabilize Your Relationship in 5 Easy Lessons.
And there is no risk involved with a 14-day money-back guarantee!