"This is the kind of thing that saves relationships and brings people together. "
Past experience defines your reality. So, if all you’ve known is loneliness, heartache, and fear of getting hurt, you’re likely to feel skeptical about the possibilities for love.
And maybe you’ve encountered friends or loved ones that seem to be happy …But it’s hard to trust that it’s out there for you, too.
“Yeah, well, maybe it works for them, but I’m not so lucky.”
This is a myth that plagues many insecurely attached folks because it reveals a very specific underlying attachment need that was never sated when they were children.
But the good news is, you CAN satisfy this need NOW, and BEFORE you find or cultivate a secure relationship with a partner. In fact, satisfying this need immediately is almost sure to guarantee that your existing partner or potential partners are far more likely to want to be close to you, and deepen the intimacy.
What is this one, specific need?
A NEED TO FEEL SPECIAL.
Now, I know that sounds pretty common and benign, but it can actually destroy relationships.
How?
Because as much as feeling special can make us feel good about ourselves, if it matters too much to us, then we are equally willing to feel BAD about ourselves. We're even willing to ruin our relationships in unconscious and subversive ways, just to validate our negative beliefs that we are the exception when it comes to love.
We get attached to our suffering and loneliness because it makes us feel like, “I am the exception to the rule... and that makes me special.”
In clinging to being the exception, we feel safe from being challenged in truly intimate situations or risking exposure.
But once we can let go of the need to be special, the insights, understandings, love, and connection that are actually quite COMMON come flooding in, and you start to FEEL differently, even before your partner or potential partner starts behaving in the ways you thought you needed.
And you will start seeing changes right away. Like finding someone who thinks you are pretty darn special, without having to try so hard.
Just like Lesley did.
Lesley was a single mom committed to looking after her three kids for years when she stumbled upon my program, The Courageous Communicator.
She was just starting to explore a relationship with someone but had been out of practice for more than two decades.
In our time together, she experienced significant insights and profound shifts, around what was stopping her from really connecting to her new fellow, including recognizing, satisfying, and letting go of this one, specific attachment need that kept her locked in loneliness and despair.
A word from Lesley…
"I think this kind of work is the most important thing we can possibly be doing first of all for ourselves, for our partners, and for our children. This is the kind of thing that saves relationships and brings people together. When I look at what's going on in the rest of the world, we need way more of this."
Learning to feel more secure and inspiring a partner’s adoration is a lot less complicated than it sounds when you can change your attitude around this one need.
So if you’re ready to learn more hop on over here, and I’ll tell you more about it.
And let’s get on a call to discuss if it could be the right fit for you.
Cheers!
~ Briana
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If you are interested in attracting and/or inspiring your existing partner to become your emotional equal in love, devoted to you and only you, you won’t want to miss this opportunity!
INSPIRE him to spend quality time together at least 2-3 days a week... without ever wondering if "he's really there" or "thinking about someone else..."
LET GO of anxiety... while your partner takes over all the initiating and planning, so you can just relax, show up, and enjoy your sensuality.
ESTABLISH an intimate emotional connection, with TRUST and LOYALTY... so you can feel loved and appreciated, showered with the attention and affection your heart desires.
Even if he's emotionally distant right now or you're worried there’s someone else...it is possible to turn things around, without years of talk therapy, one-off retreats, or “fake it ‘til you make it” gimmicks that don’t work.
Real Results from Conscientious Professional Women...
Angry, hurt, and frustrated, Kelly had hit a wall. She had been trying to figure out why her relationships always failed, and she felt like she was going crazy. She had tried everything- read books, taken courses, talked to friends, but nothing seemed to work. She was so tired of feeling like she was “broken” because of her attachment style; who could love her if she was so anxious all the time? Then she found The Courageous Communicator course. It was the first time she had ever heard someone talk about communication relevant to insecure attachment styles, and things clicked for her. Within 6 months of taking this course, she was in a serious relationship with a new partner.
“The Courageous Communicator course helped me to see how my past relationships were affecting the way I communicated now. I learned how to take responsibility for my own actions, and how to start communicating in a way that would help me to achieve the kind of relationship I wanted.”
Kelly, 29
Lupita joined the program, she and her husband of seven years were stuck in a “rough patch.” They kept having the same argument in different iterations and couldn’t seem to escape a cycle of triggering each other into their defensive corners. After taking this course, Lupita reported they were most excited by the non-verbal creative arts exercises, which allowed them to get out of their heads and appreciate each other’s creativity, in a fun way that was new and different. By the end of the course, they were a lot more loving and accepting towards each other, and there was a renewed sense of devotion to their relationship.
“I never realized how much my need to be right was costing me, in terms of feeling close to my husband. After taking this course, I feel like we finally have a set of tools that we can use to help us communicate better and connect on a deeper level.”
Lupita, 33
After years of feeling unfulfilled in her relationships, Kate joined The Courageous Communicator program in hopes of finding a new way to communicate her needs, and break a habit of people-pleasing and feeling like a burden. She found the program challenging at first, as it required her to become more aware of her own thoughts and feelings, and consider them as valid and worthy without external approval. However, as she continued to practice the skills she was learning, she started to feel more confident in herself and her ability to communicate her needs without a fear of rejection. By the end of the course, Kate was able to have more fulfilling and satisfying experience of dating, and was actually enjoying being single and practicing her new skills!
“This program has showed me how to communicate my needs in a better way. The step-by-step formulas offer a whole new way of communicating that feels more compassionate and understanding, while also protecting your boundaries. I highly recommend it to anyone who wants to improve their communication skills.”
Kate, 35
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As a licensed and board-certified creative arts therapist (with certifications in Reiki Healing, EFT Tapping, and trauma-informed somatic therapy), I've spent more than 15 years working with thousands of adults struggling with insecure attachment styles.
Experience has taught me it’s not complicated to learn how to attract stable and emotionally available partners when you have a deep understanding of how attachment styles and energy healing works.
Attachment styles and healing attachment wounds is a topic so near and dear to my heart, because I don't just teach this stuff, I've lived it. As a child of divorce, my parents were always on the move, and we lived on the edge of poverty most of the time. I became a high achiever to compensate, until my relationship struggles tore down everything I’d accomplished, and I wound up a divorced, single mom.
Then, both my parents and my brother were diagnosed with serious, chronic illnesses. And the new partner I had fallen madly in love with couldn’t prioritize me or stay faithful. When he left, my heart broke anew, and I miscarried what would’ve been my second child.
Then, both my parents and my brother were diagnosed with serious, chronic illnesses. And the new partner I had fallen madly in love with couldn’t prioritize me or stay faithful. When he left, my heart broke anew, and I miscarried what would’ve been my second child.
Here's The Radical Truth...
You ARE enough.
You are NOT too much.
You are FULLY deserving.
And there is a reality that exists in which you get to BE your most authentic self, and live your FULLEST life, with a partner who cherishes you, just as you are. I know, because I’ve walked through that fire myself, and found grace on the other side.
My online coaching program, The Courageous Communicator, is going to hold your hand every step of the way, so you get to embrace that reality, for good.
And believe me, it’s SO worth it!