Felix was a manager in his family business, who carried a lot of responsibility for taking care of his family. He received many dismissive and punitive messages growing up, about sacrificing himself for the good of everyone else’s happiness and making things go smoothly. This made him try really hard and move really fast when courting women in the beginning, and then resent them and withdraw when they got too close. Then, he’d self soothe with alcohol, food, porn, or online gaming. After taking this program, Felix recognized he had little to no boundaries with his family, and it was negatively impacting his relationships. Within 6 months of completing the course, he’d quit the family job and started his own online business. He’d also started dating someone new, and was conscientiously taking things slow.
“The step-by-step exercises for identifying and stating your boundaries were a game-changer for me. It helped me declare my independence, even if my folks were still a little sore about it. But I know now its okay for them to have sad feelings. And I’m happier than I’ve ever been, doing my own thing, and dating someone that admires that about me.”
- Felix Patterson